I desperately want a company in which our employees are empowered to make their own decisions. But, what do I do when I disagree with the decision that they are about to make? When am I as the business owner suppose to step-in and make an executive decision? When am I suppose to step back and let things unfold under the direction of the employee.

I really struggled with this yesterday. Why is it so hard for me to let go of my thinking, and my way of doing things, and let others take the reins. It kills me when I can see that I am draining the life and energy out of my employees when we debate a topic for 30 minutes (just as it probably kills them too). What is my role? How should I respond to a phone call with the entire company telling me that they disagree with a decision that I have made?

I think the worst thing about yesterday, is that I left at 3:20pm and I got a phone call around 5:30pm or 6:00pm from everyone in the office. It was strongly implied by the tone of the conversation that they had spent the last 2 hours discussing and talking about how they disagreed with a statement that I made regarding the need to outsource editing. I hate the feeling of people talking behind my back. I am a huge people pleaser. I want to know that people appreciate my perspective, and that they value my opinion. It just eats at my psyche when things pop-up behind my back. Why can’t people say things to me? Is it that my personality is too strong, and that I really am stubborn? Have they given up trying to debate things with me one-on-one, because they feel like there is no way I will change my mind?

I feel like every company that has two sides, and discussions that happen when certain people aren’t around is in a toxic place, and it is only a matter of time before it crumbles. In our company I feel like these big discussions and conversations happen when I am not around. Is it my fault for not providing an opportunity for feedback? Am I making too many executive decisions without consulting the rest of the office? Is there a specific person that is sparking these conversations? Regardless of what the cause is, it has to be my number one mission to find out why that is happening, and get it to stop immediately. How long can a body last if the head is acting independently, and is unsupported by the rest of the body. Will it actually get anywhere? Will it ever accomplish anything?

Just like Abraham Lincoln said, “A house divided against itself cannot stand.” These are very wise words from one of the great leaders of our time, but at the same time it is not very complex, and it is very logical.